Being a child or a teenager should be an exciting and fun time, hopefully having opportunities and the confidence to explore, evolve and develop their own personalities as they begin their journey through life.
However, sadly this isn't alway the case and for some children or adolescents they may experience challenges that they need support with.
It is not uncommon for children or adolescence to go through a period of poor sleep as we all do from time to time. Evidence shows that night time sleep is just as important as healthy eating and exercise for children to develop. Those who don’t get enough sleep are more likely to be overweight or obese. This is because they tend to crave and eat sugary or starchy food during the day to give them energy to stay awake. Younger children who are persistently sleep-deprived seem irritable and overactive, seek constant stimulation and don’t concentrate well.
Adolescences create additional sleeping problems by abusing their natural sleeping patterns by; watching TV, playing computer games, reading on iPads, using social media, studying, socialising, all carried out late at night or even into the early hours of the morning. All of which has a detrimental affect to their health and mental wellbeing. In addition to resolving poor sleeping habits, issues such as; Bed Wetting, Night Terrors, Sleep Walking, Sleep Talking are also treated at Mindset and Solutions.
...This was very successful and immediately I could see that my daughter felt so much better and I was convinced that Amanda was the perfect choice...Mother of 16 yr old girl
If your child / adolescence is beginning to feel anxious the quicker your child receives support the faster your child can learn new strategies in dealing with challenging situations as they occur, rather than simply leaving it and hoping it will sort itself out. In some cases it does sort itself out, but in many the conditions simply worsen. Children and Adolescence show their anxiety in many different ways.
Children under the age of 10 will typically show anxiety in forms of: Involuntary noises or movements e.g. sniffing, scratching, biting fingers or nails, coughing, playing with fingers. Temper tantrums, separation anxiety, reluctant to try new things, not wanting to go to parties or friends house, unable to go to sleep overs, bursting into tears at the slightest things, suffering from frequent stomach aches.
Adolescence are usually able to hide their anxiety easier, you may witness signs such as: Over reacting to changes, counting, tapping, particular routines carried out, withdrawal from social or family situations, less communicative with family or people when out, fearful, not wanting to go to school, panicky or over whelmed in new situations or when facing new challenges, not wanting to go out alone, changes in eating patterns, needing the toilet more often, headaches, digestive problems, poor memory or concentration.
Anger Management & Behaviour Issues
Children and Adolescences’ behaviour can be baffling, stressful, hurtful and often worrying. But in most cases it doesn't mean that there is anything more serious going on than the natural process of growing up. Many of the common behaviour issues that parents find hard are an essential part of growing up and puberty. It is not unusual for children to be demanding, confrontational, aloof, want more time alone or with friends, feel misunderstood, maybe even reject your attempts to talk or show affection, or appear sullen and moody, but it is often nothing more than an over expression or habit that is soon resolved with understanding, mutual respect, support and by putting boundaries in place.
However, sadly it doesn't always work out like that; when this type of behaviour continues or becomes extremely channelling or totally unacceptable we need to take a better look at how we can support our children.
Anger or behaviour issues become a problem when it harms the child / adolescent or the people around them. Learning how to express the feelings of anger in a positive way and how to eliminate the feelings that cause the anger in the first place are an essential part of the program to enable the child or adolescent deal with any future changing situations with a more productive and acceptable behaviour. Behaviours such as; Violence, verbally and physically, swearing, hitting, biting, throwing things, destroying things, stealing, lying, deceitful, aggressiveness, bullying, refusal to accede to rules and boundaries, are typical behaviour traits of a child or adolescence struggling to stay in control of their anger or emotions.
...My son's end of year school report far exceeded our expectations and many of his teachers noticed an improved attitude towards his work and this was reflected in improved grades....Mother of a 13 yr old boy
My aim is not only to support the child/adolescent but also the whole family that may be involved. Parents are often at a loss on the best way forward in how to support their child. Parents are often very inconsistent with their approach in dealing with their child/adolescent and the condition or issue their child is struggling with. My role is to support all the family members. It is not usual for me to act as a mentor with siblings and parents to help restore broken relationships and poor communications. In addition I often work along side; schools, colleges, universities, Head Teachers, Educational Psychologist, Occupational Therapist and Special Needs Teachers enabling them to support myself and the child to achieve the best results possible with the treatment program. If we are all working on the same page we can help the child/adolescent to make the required changes faster. In between the clinic appointments there maybe additional; emails, telephone calls or face to face meetings, in some case home visits all depending what each child/adolescent family requirements are.
Involuntary noises, movements, OCD
Stress or Anxiety can show its self in many different forms. If your child/adolescent has been demonstrating any of the following traits for a period of time, weeks or months, either in challenging or stress situations or throughout the day in general, they may expressing some form of anxiety that they themselves may not even be aware of. Counting, Tapping, Coughing, Sniffing, Rubbing Hands, Rubbing arms or Legs, Biting skin on their fingers, repeating a phrase or word. Frequent washing of hands, body or clothes, hiccup or burping noise, habitat routines, to name but a few.
...From the end of the first appointment there was already a sign of change in him and gradually, across 4 sessions, the change was noticeable and has continued to be constant and progressive....Mother of 14yr old boy with OCD
If a child/adolescent has been a victim of being bullied, loss of confidence, low self esteem and negative, self worth often stays with the person for a lot longer than the bullying does. A person can often carry these feelings around which will affect them during their childhood and often into carried into adult hood if left untreated. I see many adult clients who are not working or living to their full potential due to living beliefs that have occurred due to childhood bullying. This needn't be the case if we are able to treat the effects that the bullying has had on the child/adolescent as early as possible, restoring confidence and self-belief.
In some instances its working with the bullies themselves, finding an alternative way for them to deal with, people, situations and re establishing a healthy moral compass.
Communication and Relationship Issues
Sometimes relationship have completely broken down, it pretty much comes down to one thing ‘communication’, the lack of it or poor communication. Communication problems often lead to relationship issues, which is no great surprise. If you can't communicate with your parents, siblings, friends, teachers, how can you cultivate a sense of trust, support, friendship, closeness and love? Still, basic communication challenges often lead to broken relationships. Mindset & Solutions programs teach children and adolescents effective communication which is the starting point to help to rebuild broken relationships.
DISC Personality Profiling This personality profiling (7 minute multiple choice questionnaire) helps children and adolescents to understand their own communication style, their strengths and developmental areas in ways to overcome conflict within situations or relationships. It teaches how to recognise how people communicate differently and how they can learn to communicate more effectively. The profiling shows how their personality style changes under stress and during change. During the program I teach parents about how their children communicate and their children’s personality styles, parents to understand how the best way to communicate with their particular child. We know not all children will respond to the same way of communicating or rules or boundaries, so we find the best way to get the best results. The objective is to establish a healthy, loving, respectful communicating relationship with both parties, this is so much easier to achieve with the understanding of the DISC profiling. When we communicate consciously in a more effective manner each relationship can be effected in a positive way immediately. Each child or adolescent receives a DISC Personality Profiling during their bespoke program.
...She has come such a long way in understanding and managing her emotions and as she is now seeing that it helps her, she is willing to take responsibility rather than passing the buck to the rest of us!!....Mother of 10 yr old girl
Self-harm can take lots of physical forms, including cutting, burning, bruising, scratching, hair-pulling, poisoning and overdosing.
There are many reasons why children and adolescents try to hurt themselves. Once they start, it can become a compulsion. That's why it's so important to spot it as soon as possible and do everything you can to help.
Rather than being a cry for attention or an attempt at suicide, self-harm is usually a way for young people to release overwhelming emotions. The exact reasons why children and young people decide to hurt themselves aren't always easy to work out. In fact, they might not even know exactly why they do it. There are links between depression and self-harm, and quite often a child or adolescents who is self-harming is being bullied, under too much pressure to do well at school, being emotionally abused, grieving or having relationship problems with families or friends. Often, the physical pain of self-harm might feel easier to deal with than the emotional pain that's behind it. It can also make a young person feel they're in control of at least one part of their lives. Sometimes it can also be a way for them to punish themselves for something they've done or have been accused of doing.
It may also be copying behaviour that they have seen in the media or online or a friend. Self-harm is a real cause for concern because it's becoming more and more common.
Fears & Phobia’s
Fears are common and expected in childhood; however, for some children and teens, their fears can become very severe over time, and even develop into a phobia. A phobia is an intense and unreasonable fear of a specific object or situation. This means having an extreme anxiety response towards something that is not causing immediate danger. Someone may have a phobia of dogs, spiders, or elevators, for example. Research suggests that phobias can run in families, and that both genetic and environmental factors (nature and nurture) can contribute to developing a phobia. Some children and teens develop a phobia after being exposed to a traumatic or frightening event such as a fear of water after a near drowning or fear of being bitten by dogs. However, other children may develop a phobia by observing others' anxious response to objects or situations. It is not uncommon for a child to develop a spider phobia after watching an older sibling scream and run when in contact with a spider. Although a combination of nature and nurture likely play a role in the emergence of a phobia, many youths cannot explain how or why their phobia begun. On average most phobias start before the age of 10.
A fear or phobia can be easily resolved complete during childhood.
Helping students to reduce stress and anxiety relating to exams, students often become overwhelmed by the sheer thought of an exam, some students become over whelmed by the pressure they put upon themselves to achieve high results. Coaching students to remain; motivated, driven, focussed and disciplined throughout the academic year, to help support and find practical strategies to study and revise during exam times.
...I’m in no doubt whatsoever that Amanda-Jane’s work with my daughter has been reflected in her results which exceeded our expectations....Father of a Teenage Girl
Mother of 14yr old boy with OCD
"My 14 year son was clearly unhappy, had become more withdrawn and was struggling with his emotions. He finally confessed how he was feeling and I sought advice on who could best help him. Amanda Jane came highly recommended. From the first introductory meeting Amanda made an instant connection with my son, listening, understanding and giving him confidence that she could help work with him and guide him to overcome the issues that were affecting him on a daily basis."